I am glad you found your way to this site. Please enjoy reading my reflections on this difficult and confusing topic of crossdressing. The intention of this site is to build a network of resources and a community of people trying to fight their crossdressing addictions together, and giving each other encouragement and advice. Further, I write to help people think about crossdressing from a Christian and biblical perspective. Hopefully this site can help us to understand ourselves better and find healing and forgiveness and freedom in our Lord Jesus Christ. The issues of crossdressing and gender dysphoria surely have caused most of us great pain, anguish, and frustration in our private, public, and spiritual lives.
I am not an expert, but over the years I have worked hard at reading as many articles and books that I can about these issues, even those that I radically disagree with. I still have much to read and learn. I write out of my personal experience, my reading about crossdressing, my faith, and the theological education I have received. I am a Christian pastor. I myself used to struggle with the desire to crossdress and starting this site was one way for me to get support and healing for myself from this addiction while trying to help others at the same time. In 2011, God gave me great victory over this struggle and I have been going strong ever since, with only a few times of struggle and failure. You can read more about my story on the “About” page. Through this blog a whole community of men have come together and given up their crossdressing addictions. Some of them have even written on this blog not only through comments, but through “Guest Posts.”
Please feel free to comment and discuss even if you disagree with me. I hold all email addresses with confidentiality, but for those of you who are rightly worried about security and anonymity, it’s easy to make a new email address with anonymous names, which you could do before commenting here. While the point of this website is to help those who are trying to resist crossdressing, I welcome good comments from anybody even if you think crossdressing is a healthy activity. I enjoy debating to a point, and will try to discuss with you in a healthy, peaceful way. Perhaps we can have mutual learning and growth through the discussion. I have been greatly helped by other bloggers, organizations, and articles which I have posted links to. But as you comment, please keep in mind the purpose of my site. I approve each comment individually. I would rather just have comments completely open, but I have learned to monitor them because of past commenters crossing the line and harassing other commenters, or trolling.
Although I usually make clear distinctions between crossdressing as a sexual fetish addiction and crossdressing as a result of gender dysphoria/transgenderism, in some of my posts I talk about both at once with little distinction, and I have been criticized for doing so. I am not ignorant of the important distinctions between the two issues. But when I have not distinguished the two issues within an individual post, it is because my arguments against both issues are largely the same arguments and many posts apply to both issues equally. There is far more overlap between these two gender issues than most people want to admit. See this post for my thoughts about terms, labels, and types of crossdressers.
Thank you for being willing to read my thoughts. If they help you, to God be the glory for what he has done in my life. I thank him for being willing to use me. Please comment below if you would like prayer in your struggle and I promise to dedicate time in prayer for you.
If you want some guidance in reading my posts, you can start with what I consider to be my “most important posts.”