I read this article in the News today – Transgender Americans take on New York – I found it interesting but also troubling in a few ways.
First of all while reading I thought it was strange that the transsexuals are saying that – “It is the contents of a person’s mind and soul, they say, which determine sex – not what is inside their pants.” If they really believe that it’s all about what is in a person’s mind and soul, then why are they trying so hard to change what their bodies look like so they appear as biological females or biological males? If it’s just about having a more feminine soul, why are they dressing like biological women dress? Why can’t they just be themselves with their unique personality without trying to become women? I find that pretty strange. I think it just points to the confusion we as crossdressers and transgender people have about our own desires and feelings with sex/gender.
Transsexuals seem to be pushing for letting anything go with sex and gender. It doesn’t matter what your biology is at all and it doesn’t matter how you present yourself as a man or a woman or something in between. Heck, let’s just throw out the 2 sexes in general or make 5 sex options. Sex should be completely up to the individual. It’s arbitrary what your body is biologically. That doesn’t matter at all. People can be whatever they want.
That’s the kind of stuff they say (at least that seems to be the type of stuff I read), and yet on the other hand, sex matters desperately to them and how they are perceived by others matters desperately to them, so much so that they strain to appear as the opposite sex, or even undergo mutilation surgery to change their sex as much as they can biologically. These things don’t seem congruent. Again I think this points to the confusion they experience.
I like some of the people’s comments at the bottom of the article. They are saying that the birth certificate is a historical record of the historical fact that the baby was born as male or female. And that is not something that should be changed, even if we allow people to then live as a man or woman officially later on. If it was changed it would be rewriting history.
I’m also troubled by the woman (used to be a man) in the video. She doesn’t sound too different from myself. A man who felt more like a woman but was still attracted to women. In his mind he was a real woman, but a real lesbian woman, who was born with the wrong body, a male body. That just sounds so convoluted to me. How do we come up with this stuff? Do we believe that to be true? Would we believe it if one of our children said he is really a duck but was born in the wrong body? No? Why not? The logic is exactly the same. The child could argue he was born with the soul of a duck in the wrong body. It makes much more sense to believe that we are dealing with a confused man who didn’t realize it is okay to be a sensitive man, a man who doesn’t fit with all the stereotypical notions of what it means to be a man. How can he be okay with having a penis and yet still feeling like he is a woman? What does that mean for him? If he was forced to answer, what would he say? Not that he is attracted to men. Not that he doesn’t like his penis. Maybe just that he is more graceful and sensitive and emotional than typical men, or women’s clothes are more comfortable. But that doesn’t make him a woman! I’d like to hear one good argument from a transgender person about why they feel like they are truly a woman, that doesn’t include any false gender stereotypes.
I’m not trying to be harsh. I have compassion for these people, as I’ve had very similar feelings myself and often desired to live as a woman. But I think they are confused and need help, just like I was confused. They do not need a sex change. I’m also troubled by the direction our culture is going. Someday will I have a son who has to make sure the woman he wants to date or marry is really a woman or is it a man deceiving him? The people in the article want to make it even easier for people to change their official sex, even without surgery, just by the clothes they wear. Why not just go back and forth every year for the heck of it? My thinking is that this would cause so much more confusion and perceived deception in our society. At least with the surgery, it has somewhat more finality.
I also do not like the psychological distinction between the terms “sex” and “gender.” I will write a different post about that some other time though.
Feel free to push back at me on any of these points. Debate and dialogue is healthy. I can take your criticism.