I came across a bunch of articles about some changes in mens fashion. These are changes that seem a bit feminine to many people in our culture. The first is about makeup and beauty products for men – “Beauty products for men?” Read the article and see what you think. Surprisingly my opinion is that these beauty products for men do not constitute crossdressing. They are traditionally female type products in our culture, but these are made specifically for men. And they are being used by men to enhance their masculine appearance, not in any way trying to make themselves look feminine. Some of you may remember an article I posted about nail polish for men. That seems much stranger to me because it is men decorating themselves so that their nails appear in the same way that female painted nails appear, and most men find painted nails really attractive and sexy on women. So men copying that look seemed and still seems really strange to me, but these products don’t seem near as strange.
Now, I would never use any of these products myself, and I do think it’s weird, but again I don’t consider it crossdressing. One thing I would note though is that I think this shows a downward trend in our culture. Do we really need all these products? Do we really need to cake chemicals onto our faces to try to look good? It seems pretty ridiculous to me. I think our job as men is to try and help women realize they are beautiful without all their makeup. And I believe it is really true that they are beautiful without it. I personally am glad that my wife doesn’t wear any makeup. And she doesn’t need it, she looks very natural and beautiful without it. But now it seems, men in our culture are not encouraging women to do without so much makeup, and they are giving into the same practices as well. Instead of helping women to not be so obsessed about their appearance, men are giving in as well. I don’t see that as a good thing, although I’m not saying it’s wrong to use those products in general. I just think it shows a trend of men being more obsessed with appearance than they used to.
A last comment about this article and topic, is that I was surprised to see I was more lenient about men using these products than most of the commenters. You all know I am vehemently against crossdressing and men not being the men they were made to be. And yet, if you look at the comments below the article, (and below the other articles I talk about in the next paragraph), there are tons of women who talk about not allowing their men to use such products, or divorcing them if they did, or it would be unmanly for them to do so. I was under the opinion that our culture is pretty liberal, and pretty open about things like metrosexual or androgynous looks or crossdressing. But apparently there are a lot of people out there more concerned than I am to keep differences between how males and female dress and look. Interesting. Some of those wives sound a little too paranoid and afraid. Maybe they have a warped view of gender on the opposite end of the spectrum than what I am usually arguing against. Maybe they need to be a little more accepting of guys that aren’t super manly looking according to traditional stereotypes. And some of the commenters seemed to equate putting on makeup as part of what it means to be a woman. I think they need a little deeper view of what it means to be a woman.
There were a couple more articles I found, and a video. “Male girdle?” , “Mantyhose” , “Pantyhose for men?” Again with these products, I would not consider them crossdressing. It would be hard for me to wear the mantyhose without getting turned on, because they are so much like pantyhose. But for men who don’t have my issues, it makes sense that they might want to wear them for comfort or warmth. You might be surprised I would think this. But although I’ve always been against crossdressing, I’ve always also been open to cultural change in the ways that men and women dress. The point is to keep the distinction between the ways that men and women look, so we aren’t trying to dress and look like the opposite sex. But change can happen, and in some ways I think it is about time that mens fashion isn’t so stifled. We should be allowed to wear more diverse things like women can. Also it is important to note that men are wearing these mantyhose for warmth under jeans or pants, not with a skirt or dress, which would appear womanly, and would be very odd since men in our culture are attracted to womens’ nyloned legs. Anyway, just some interesting stuff to think about. I’m not comfortable with any of these changes personally. In many ways they seem like crossdressing. But logically I think I need to accept the cultural changes as they slowly come and not view these types of things as crossdressing.