This is a more academic article about the treatment for transvestism – here. Overall, it shows us the power of crossdressing and how most psychological help for crossdressers has done nothing for them. For most crossdressers, they considered it a waste of time. This is surely a difficult problem to tackle, but surely not impossible.
I thought this paragraph interesting – Pomeroy (1975) reassured his transvestite patients that their cross-dressing was “benign” and that their problems were social in nature. He believed that the most important therapeutic task was to develop self-acceptance for transvestic behavior, which would ultimately lead to both greater control over the behavior and a diminished drive to cross-dress. He cautioned that an initial period of 6-24 months of increased cross-dressing activity would sometimes be observed after a transvestite informed his spouse of his cross-dressing behavior and she expressed tolerance or acceptance of his behavior. Later, however, the transvestite’s realization that he now had greater freedom to cross-dress with the full knowledge of a supportive individual (e.g., therapist, spouse) often resulted in self-limiting of cross-dressing, as it no longer represented a forbidden activity (Pomeroy 1975).
So according to this, many crossdressers give into the behavior partly because it is forbidden fruit. There is an element of it that is wanting to do something forbidden, sinful, of wanting to break the laws, the boundaries of gender. This certainly was part of the motivation for me, not all of it, but at least a small part of it. Obviously this notion in itself doesn’t prove that crossdressing is wrong. But perhaps it helps to illustrate it. If it was not wrong, why would it be a forbidden fruit to crossdressers? Why wouldn’t they crossdress even more once it was accepted unless they felt inside that it is still wrong?
There is also an interesting examination of medication used to treat transvestism and crossdressing in the article. It seems like they were successful in that by limiting anxiety, people lost the motive to crossdress. This supports the theory that we crossdress as a way to escape the difficulties of life and deal with our anxiety, perhaps as a connection to our childhood, or to our mother, or to the subconscious view that women and girls have easier carefree lives. I would advocate that instead of medication, we should learn to deal with our anxiety in healthy ways besides crossdressing.
The article also noted that certain drugs, that are helpful for those with OCD, did not help those struggling with crossdressing. Which means that those who think addictive crossdressing is just a form of OCD, are mistaken.