Here is a brief but interesting link about transvestism – “Transvestism.” There isn’t much new here for many of us. However, it gives concise summaries of some of the treatments that have been used.
Has anyone tried any of these 3 therapies, either biofeedback, covert sensitization, or assisted aversive conditioning? If so how did it go? I’ve read also about a form of aversive conditioning that was successful at least in the short term with crossdressing. They had crossdressers crossdress in front of other people and they felt shame. But it may not have worked in the long run. I would not suggest anything like that. But I think other types of aversive conditioning could potentially be helpful.
I have not tried any of these methods. I did see a psychologist about my crossdressing, but he wasn’t real helpful. Although at least he was very teachable in that he really listened to me well and didn’t pretend to know more than he did.
For covert sensitization, I have I guess tried this in ways on my own. I’ve imagined how ugly I look while crossdressed, which diffuses temptations, or imagined getting caught. Imagining myself getting caught didn’t do much for me, it only added to my caution and secretiveness. But imagining myself as a man in a dress, (which wasn’t too hard), did help me to resist and not desire crossdressing as much. It cut through the deception of crossdressing.
I have also in the past slapped myself on the chest after crossdressing, trying to give myself a pain association with it, but that ultimately wasn’t real helpful. I’ve also tried fasting from food for 1 or 2 days after any crossdressing failures. I probably did that for almost a year, and it didn’t really help me at all. It made me think more seriously about crossdressing, but it didn’t actually help me to resist it. My body was so weak from lack of food at times, that I just gave in to crossdressing without thinking clearly. I wanted to satisfy at least 1 bodily pleasure if I wasn’t going to have food. Conversely, sometimes I would forget the reasons why I didn’t want to crossdress in the first place, and only thought about the fasting, and so I rationalized that fasting for a day was worth it if I could crossdress, and so I gave in.
I guess ultimately I’m not sure how helpful any of these treatments, or my own personal methods were. What really helped me to stop, was finally really “wanting” to stop, and finally really “believing” that I could control myself. Once I wanted to stop, and once I believed I could control myself, then I did control myself and I stopped. And that was that. Maybe we make it more complicated by focusing on all of these other treatments. If the goal is not just to control ourselves, but to take away our desires for it, I think the best way to take away our desires for crossdressing is just to not crossdress for a while. Once you control yourself and resist the temptations to crossdress for a while, at least for me, the desires for it get less and less over time.
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