Feel free to push back and debate me on this post. This is not a scientific post, but just my general impressions of the arguments and claims that I have read from transsexuals and transgendered individuals online, in articles, and in textbooks. I’ll try to keep this short, to make sure my main thought and point of this post comes across clearly.
I think that transgendered individuals and transsexuals often make illogical inconsistent contrary claims. At first glance, these two opposing claims seem to support one another but I believe on closer inspection they are revealed to contradict one another.
On the one hand transsexuals often argue very vocally that either sex or gender or both don’t matter. They argue that you as a unique individual are all that matters and you are who you are, your sex or gender doesn’t matter so much. Sometimes they are vocal in arguing against gendered labels. Sometimes they argue that there shouldn’t be just 2 binary genders and that the world should be full of a wonderful gender spectrum of people. They argue that it is your soul that matters, not your outward body, and so your soul is who you really are, even if your body does not match. They strongly oppose gender stereotypes. They argue people should not be confined to certain behaviors based on their genders. They are against people being stifled and persecuted for not fitting into societal gender norms.
All of this sounds like a fairly powerful argument in favor of transgenderism and trans-sexuality. But it is not the whole story.
On the other hand, the people getting the sex changes are the ones most entrenched in rigid gender stereotypes, not the people least entrenched. Instead of being free from gender roles and stereotypes, they are the ones most in bondage to them. They are the ones who claim strongly that “men are like this” and “women are like that.” They are the ones lumping people into rigid categories of gender the most. Therefore, if you are a sensitive nurturing gentle man who likes to dress well, you must really be a woman. They are the ones who label themselves and other people the most strictly. They are the ones to whom gender matters the most, not the least. They think their bodies matter, so so so much, that they get massive surgeries to change their bodies to match up with what they say their soul is.
I am troubled by how blind so many people are to this bad logic. The two views do not go together. Please pick and choose one. If you are against stupid gender stereotypes (as I am) then be the unique man that you are are be yourself even if you aren’t like most other men. Don’t get a sex change! Why do we have to make things so complicated in either trying to surgically alter our bodies, or trying to say that there are 5 genders? Why can’t we just be who we are, who God created us to be? If your soul is what matters most to you, then why are you so troubled with getting surgery to alter your body? Why can’t you just accept your body as it is and realize that your body does not have to affect your soul and who you are?
I realize that transsexual arguments are more complex than this. But these are the main messages I am soaking up from the transgendered community. Can someone please help me sort this out? Are transsexuals really this illogical and inconsistent? It appears to me to be confusion on a mass scale. If I’m wrong, please explain. It may not sound like it, but I am ready to listen and hear you out.
If I followed the logic of transsexuals I would have gotten a sex change already. Every book I read about marriage or gender, I am far far far more like the women than the men. On all the gender tests I’ve taken it says I have a female brain, or suggests that I am transsexual. I am very different from most other men, and much more “feminine” according to the cultural definition. And yet, I have embraced that this is who I am, a man, albeit not the same type of man as the usual, yet I am still a man, and I feel free to be myself and enjoy life. I don’t need to surgically alter my body to somehow be myself. I give myself no credit for this, but to God and those he used in my life to help me sort these thoughts and feelings and beliefs out. If I had had other guidance, I may have ended up getting that surgery one day. Thanks be to God that he gave me good guidance in my life and freedom to be who he created me to be.
As an appendix – I am also wondering how transsexuals who remain attracted to the opposite sex (that is a man getting a sex change to be a woman but still being attracted to women), how does this fact not give them pause? Is it a coincidence that so many transsexuals aren’t attracted to the sex, that would be the new opposite sex? If you aren’t attracted to men, as most women would be, doesn’t this give you some caution that perhaps you are not truly a woman after all? Homosexuals are what, at most, maybe 5% of the population? It seems to me that most transsexuals I hear about end up claiming to be homosexual as well (like the cases of men becoming women but remaining with their wives because they are still attracted to women). To me this is not coincidence but evidence that these men are suffering from gender confusion, and are not truly women after all.