I found this video really helpful in thinking about avoiding crossdressing temptations, in life or on the computer. The video is by Pastor Mark Driscoll. Let me first say that I often can’t stand the things Pastor Driscoll says. I think he is way off base much of the times on his views of the differences between men and women. Some of his statements that involve his rigid gender stereotypes have made me really angry. However, just because I disagree with him on some things, doesn’t mean God can’t still use him to speak truth into my life.
He says a lot of good things in this video, but what I found the most helpful was when he talked about putting your sexual sin to death. He says “Don’t manage your sin.” That really hit home to me. I’ve tried that so many times. We can’t manage our sin. We can’t tolerate it at all. We need to crucify it. The more we try to manage it, the more it grows and takes hold of us. You try to manage it and the next thing you know you’ve spent hours and hours being enslaved by it and not being able to get yourself away. Too often I’ve said these lies to myself, thinking that I could manage the sin and just flirt with it.
-I’ll just search on google for “he had to wear her clothes” but I won’t read any stories.
-I’ll just do a google image search for crossdressed, but I won’t go to any other websites.
-I’ll just watch this commercial advertisement about crossdressing that just popped up on this website, but I won’t do anything else.
-I’ll just see if her shoe fits, but that is all I will do.
Things like this are easy to rationalize at times, but they are flirting with sin. In some cases they are giving in to sin. And once we rationalize, once we try to manage, once we flirt with sin, hours later we find ourselves already having masturbated, or already having fully crossdressed, or already having spent hours reading crossdressing fiction. We must put these sins to death and not try to manage or tolerate anything, not even the slightest thought or daydream.
Driscoll also recommends getting healing from your sexual addictions before getting married. I personally wish I had done this. It would have made things easier on our marriage, and I would not have abused my wife’s belongings so much if I had conquered my addiction beforehand. It would have been easier to stop then, then how hard it was to stop once already married.
Video – Here is Part 1
Video – Here is Part 2