For those of your wives looking for some help in dealing with your husband’s crossdressing or transgenderism, you could check out this book by Gae Hall – “He can never be she.” It is also on Kindle as an e-book. It also could be helpful to some of you crossdressers or those struggling with transgenderism.
I personally skimmed the whole book, reading most of it, but not every word. I am not in a place to commit to saying that I agree with every bit of it. I would only say something like that about a book after reading it fully and carefully. I also know there are some sub-points which I might take issue with (she is generally more conservative than I am especially in regards to natural gender differences and gender roles). However, largely I agree with most of it, and the book gets into the dangers and consequences of crossdressing, the effects it has on family, the logical and biblical reasons as to why it is wrong and a confusion, and talks about ways to look for help. She also suggests ways for wives to deal with husbands who are struggling with it, and how wives can help their children as they struggle with transgendered fathers. I thought she did a good job of showing some of the logical inconsistencies and confusions of transgender statements and arguments.
For me personally, there wasn’t much new that I learned factually. However, I was STRONGLY influenced by her story, talking about her husband’s progression into full blown transgenderism, finally to living as a woman full-time and their eventual divorce. The way her husband treated her was just awful. Now, I know that just because her marriage went this way, it doesn’t mean that all marriages experiencing this struggle go this way, and so her story itself is not a proof of anything about the nature of transgenderism and its consequences. However, because of my own personal knowledge of how crossdressing has taken place in my life and mind, when I read the story I was struck hard in the heart. I knew, “but for the grace of God there go I.” I could see much of myself in the often harsh and selfish and confused husband.
I recommend reading the book just to read her story. On the day I started reading her story I had been having some small temptations. After reading some of her story that day, all temptations had vanished. I wanted nothing more to do with crossdressing ever again. I don’t know if it will do the same for you, but it hit me powerfully.