I have a real question for you crossdressers that I would love a response to. Please comment below if you are willing.
Those in the crossdressing community love to argue that crossdressing is a harmless hobby, that although the rest of the culture finds it weird, they just need more time to get used to it and see that it actually can be a fun hobby if not done to excess. Regular people are only turned off to it because they haven’t been exposed to it enough. It is not a symptom of a confused identity but rather a healthy expression of true identity. Etc. etc.
Well here is my question. What would you think about a person, of “white” skin, who secretly made themselves up to look like a “black” or “brown” person (whatever color term you want to use) secretly in the privacy of their home every possible chance they could get? Don’t you think this would be odd? Sure it might not be harming anyone, but don’t you think this person might need some psychiatric help? Don’t you think this might mean the person is having identity issues, not being able to accept themselves for who they really are?
Let me take it further. Those of you who crossdress and actually go out in public, pretending to be women, and you argue again that it is harmless, and love it when people cannot notice you, well how would you feel about this white person trying to pretend (convincingly) that they are a black person? Or a black person being out in public trying to convince people they are white? I would for sure find this person to be odd, and maybe would even be turned off or offended. At the very least, I would again think that they need some kind of psychiatric help. Why can’t they be who God created them to be, instead of deceiving us?
Do you feel differently than I? Do you think the same way about people who would do that as you think about your crossdressing? Or do you think the two issues are completely different? If so, how?
Let me take it further. What if your teenage son was always hiding in the bathroom making himself appear as much like a frog, or falcon, or cat, or hyena, or fish as he could (take your pick of animal)? What if you found out and asked him why he did it, and he said in seriousness and tears that he was expressing his catness, and that if he didn’t express his catness he would get depressed and he didn’t want to suppress his catness? Would you tell him to embrace his catness and that it doesn’t matter if the world thinks he is odd, and he can dress up as a cat every day for the rest of his life if he really wants to? Or would you get him psychiatric help to help him realize and accept that he is a human, and not a cat?
Is this a fair analogy? If not, why not?
There is nothing wrong with being black or white. There is nothing wrong with being human. If people are ashamed to be black, or white, or human, then of course, we want to help them realize they do not need to be ashamed, and they can accept themselves as they are. Why do we treat sex differently? If someone is a man but feels like they need to dress like a woman, or even feels like they “are” a woman, why don’t we again try to help them accept themselves as they are instead of encouraging them to continue the masquerade? Being a man is good and being a woman is good. But we should be what we were born to be.
Some of you might want to retort, that make-believe is harmless. Kids do it all the time. People who play RPG’s also role play. But there is a difference. If a kid has to stop pretending he is a fireman, or if you tell someone they have to do homework and so cannot play their favorite RPG for the rest of the year, they don’t go into a depression, they don’t feel like they are suppressing anything, and they don’t feel like they are messing with their identity.
So thoughts? I’m genuinely interested to hear from those of you crossdressers. For me this is pretty black and white, and I don’t understand why it’s not clear to everyone. But obviously it is not. So help me out here. How do you differentiate it in your mind?