(What Would God Say?)
I really wish that I had a nickel for every time that I asked that question. The short answer is that for me and my life, any form of cross-dressing is wrong. As is drunkenness, fighting, cursing etc. etc etc. Now if I had a huge following on this blog then certainly I will have a number of comments that will either say that I am wrong or bigoted, homo-phobic or my favorite, a hater. Isn’t it sad that we can no longer put out there to the world that we feel something is wrong, something that the world has put it’s stamp of approval on? I myself have been in recovery for cross-dressing but I have other character defects as well such as co-dependency and fear of failure or success to name just a few.
I really think that it has more to do with whose ox is being gored. Personally I struggle with the transgendered community because I do know what it is like to question whether I was born the right gender but I don’t hate any one of those with that struggle. I just disagree and would really prefer not to have to be told that I MUST accept it as a normal and acceptable lifestyle. I just say that it is all about choice, it is a choice that is made to go in those directions and away from God. There I said it! You are going against God when you engage in those activities, whether it is cross-dressing, or any of the above, just place your sin in the blank________. Many people that I have conversed with have stated that they don’t really think that God gives a rip about whether they cross-dress and some have even stated that it is “morally neutral” as after all it is all about expressing oneself in ones true identity. But how could God not care? How could a loving God that is everywhere, knows everything and has been there since the beginning, not care what His creatures do with the life that He has given them?
What if God came down for to earth for an informal chat with us? What if He gave us His opinion about whether cross-dressing was a neutral thing? I believe that this question goes far deeper than Deuteronomy 22:5. I believe that God cares about whether a man cross-dresses or permits any kind of sin in his life.
This is my attempt to examine what God might say to all of us about this most perplexing topic.
Place: An office in Chicago
Recently, I have noticed an increase in the subject of cross-dressing and the entire spectrum of gender confusion. It would also seem that there are many in society today that are embracing this lifestyle as normative and acceptable. There are a few fringe organizations and groups that are also fighting this acceptance claiming that God would not approve of this kind of life. So, I made some calls and was lucky enough to have God come down to speak to us where we might finally get the answer to this most perplexing of questions. This then is the result of that meeting for your perusal:
My children, I am letting you know that I really don’t like many of the choices many of you have made over the years. You want to interpret what I said in the bible? What isn’t clear about what I have written through the men that I hand-picked? Like my prophet Isaiah:
“What sorrow awaits those who argue with their Creator. Does a clay pot argue with its maker? Does the clay dispute with the one who shapes it, saying, ‘Stop, you’re doing it wrong!’ Does the pot exclaim, ‘How clumsy can you be?’
Do you truly understand the price that I have paid just to have you with me? Do you understand the deep love that I have had for all my children since the time of the first one? I am your father and as your father I guide you and direct you and when you veer from the path I have laid out for you, that which is the best path, then I must out of love help you to find the way back by your very choices. Choice is everything and my choice has always been out of love for you. Why do you feel that every time you hear or think of the word discipline, the corresponding word to you is punishment? Discipline is nothing more than training or correction. Have you forgotten my servant David? Did I withdraw my love or condemn him? What about my people the Jews? Did I punish them? Forget them? No, I love them and my love never fails! I correct and train up and teach all of my children that which will create in them the strength that is needed to arrive at the perfect place that I have planned. Do I say one thing and yet do another? How could I be perfect and want perfection and yet change my mind or be capricious?
When you ask for chapter and verse from my word to determine whether something is acceptable or not I weep. I gave you all you need in my book but you must read it with My help and not try to figure it out on your own. My desire is your perfection and what you wear is just a covering. The fact that it is termed as male or female will make no difference to me; but what I will hold you to is your intentions, your heart. I know that you all have “A Thorn” in your side but that thorn is there to let you know that you can’t do this life on your own. Perhaps what you need to look at is why you have those desires? Has it ever dawned on you that I did not create you to live this life alone. I want you to choose me and the great life that I have planned for your life. I created a desire in you to perform good works and I wanted it to be a gift that you would use for my glory, not yours.
Maybe I wanted you to be an artist or a designer and when you were young those kids you were with didn’t understand the gift that I gave you and they hurt you. Maybe those lines that I created between boys and girls got really faded because of something that happened to you as a child and you didn’t feel comfortable as a boy so you went the other way. You all have your stories and they all break my heart. Remember that for every story I have provided a way out so you don’t sin. Can you ask for me to show you the way out? Remember to choose me and I will make all things right for you. I want you to need ME, not some inanimate object!
I really love the song “You Are My All In All” I want my children to get their relaxation in me. I want your need to overcome fears to be fulfilled through me. I want all your struggles and pain and victories and joy to be in me and about me! If in your heart you know that there is no “hook” in it when you want to wear the clothes, in other words, there is absolutely no feeling either mental or physical when you don an article of clothing, then why would it matter what covers your body? Perhaps you should also ask yourself is this thing something that I would tell you is the “best” I have planned for you?
Paul was one of the great apostles, take a look at what I said through him in Romans:
Romans 12:1,2 – “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Is this how you might define what you do with your body? That it is a living sacrifice?
If you are doing what you are doing to “get” something out of it, then my child you are trading that something for what I would gladly give you. You are choosing some thing other than Me. How could I want that? What if your child found something to replace you and your love and grace? How would you feel?
I gave you the gift of choice because I want you to want to be with me, not forced or coerced to do something just because you think I might be pleased. When I said heart, soul and mind and strength, these were not empty words. I meant it and if anything is taking the place of me in your life, then you must look at that through the whole of the Bible.
Mark 12:30 says:
Don’t depend on one verse to define or redefine your behavior, just follow Me and keep learning. I did not make man and woman to be interchangeable beings; I gave you each specific gifts that are yours and yours alone. Be honest with yourself as you go through your days here. Does it even make sense that if everything I have created is perfect that I have now in 2013 changed my mind about the sexes you were created to be? I am your potter, I am your gardener and I am your God! I make no mistakes and you cannot “figure” me out. Just live your lives in my light and in my word and in my love and be with others so that you don’t beat yourself up so much. In your day all will be explained to you on that day.
I want you to trust me that I know all that you need and all that you require.
Proverbs 3:5&6 says:
5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
and do not rely on your own understanding;
6 think about Him in all your ways,
and He will guide you on the right paths.
Written by Andrew