This was an interesting blog post I came across – The Hypocrisy of the Gay Community in America….Antoine Dobson/Jason Collins. I don’t claim to agree with everything in the post. However, I resonated much with the main point. As the author points out, many in the LGBT community love to clamor for freedom and tolerance. But when it comes to tolerating others who disagree with their views, they lose their tolerance. It ends up being a tolerance that only tolerates people who have similar views. As the author says, they argue for everyone to be true to themselves. So if you come out as gay you are celebrated. But in logical contrast to their passionate arguments, if you come out to be heterosexual, or that you have somehow found change in your sexuality, they disdain you. I like how the author notes the hateful accusations against Antoine Dobson. He must be part of a cult, or he must be religiously deluded into foolish thinking. I can’t tell you how many times people have treated me and my blog the same way.
If you come out as a crossdresser who no longer is going to attempt to give up the behavior, you are celebrated. But if you are a crossdresser who tries to give up the behavior by your own freewill and choice, then you are looked at with disdain. Surely you are just suppressing your desires, or you have been brainwashed by strange religious fanatics. And even worse, if you claim to have given up your crossdressing and found life better without it, you are viewed to be “dangerous” to the crossdressing community.
I’ve written on this topic before, but felt like it was time to mention it again, and to point out the interesting article above. You can read more of my thoughts in this post – “Do not judge, or you too will be judged.” So you like your crossdressing and think it is healthy. Fine. Live your life and do it. But also respect my right to think that crossdressing is not healthy, and respect my right to not give in to it. And respect the same rights of all of the other ex-crossdressing bloggers like me, not to mention all the anonymous crossdressers getting help through our blogs.
In relation to this I’d like to make a request, just in case any critics are reading my blog, or acquaintances of the critics. Please don’t dismiss my blog and my arguments simply because I am a man of faith. Please don’t dismiss my blog because of what you have heard about it from your friends. Don’t just attack my character as a way to avoid my arguments. Don’t ignore my blog because you don’t want to believe that I am enjoying life without crossdressing (me and many others). Instead, come dialogue and find out for yourself what my blog is all about and let’s enjoy a good discussion. Read my arguments, and then give vents to your criticisms. But don’t judge prematurely. Give my views a fair hearing.