Crossdressing and female sexual objectification

I have looked at a lot (thousands and thousands) crossdressing photos on the internet over my life (and I deeply regret it).  One thing I have noticed from pictures of active crossdressers as well as pictures of one-time crossdressers, is the number of sexual poses.  Even the boys that crossdress one time on a dare or for Halloween, the first thing they do is to go to sexual poses.  They twist their hips, or thrust out their fake boobs, and make kissy faces.  They walk like female supermodels.  Clearly, their view of women is that they are sexual objects, so if they are pretending to be one, that’s where their mind immediately goes.

And the vast majority of crossdressers’ photos are sexual poses.  Even if you don’t count the plethora of crossdressers who have all of their photos only of them in female underwear or lingerie (not the type of photos I used to look at), even the crossdressers who are fully clothed have photos of mostly sexual poses.  Why don’t they try to pose and look like the real women that they see all around them every day?  Why the overly sexual poses?  What does this tell us?  I’m not sure.  What do you think?

Perhaps it shows us how readily all men objectify women and their bodies.  This objectification comes out for most men in the form of pornography.  But then for crossdressers, maybe it comes out in our crossdressing.  Instead of lusting after the objectified woman’s body in a photo, we can make a real life 3-D version of a woman’s body, one that we can move and make do whatever we want, and make wear whatever we want.  We then masturbate to the image of ourselves.

I think crossdressers are naive if they think their addiction is somehow more honorable than pornography.  I think crossdressing is just a stronger, more addictive, more pleasurable form of pornography.  It still objectifies women.  At least with pornography there is another living breathing person, a real female involved, even if only there in a photo.  With crossdressing it is entirely focused on self.  Women have been reduced to a sexual object so very far, that a real woman is not even needed in the process at all.

In fact, a woman is objectified so much that the sexual objects of a woman are all that is needed.  A whole counterfeit woman is not needed.  One object alone (nail polish, lipstick, or high heels) can be enough to bring the crossdresser to ejaculation.

This is my hypothesis.  I guess if you don’t crossdress for sexual pleasure, then maybe you do not share this type of sexual objectification in your crossdressing.  But I think even for those crossdressers, it would be good for them to analyze this topic to see how much it affects what they do as well.


9 comments on “Crossdressing and female sexual objectification

  1. robmilliken says:

    Once upon a time before Jesus rescued me, I had slipped so far from God that I was easily frustrated by what I perceived were socially learned gender behaviors. In other words the male propensity to automatically equate the female form and her movements with sex. Or that men are trapped in our boring wardrobes, was in my mind something that was taught to us by our social upbringing and not something that we are naturally born with.

    LGBT women for example still want to nurture children even though they aren’t attracted to men. So while I agree with you that our cd’ing is a sin and has strong selfish overtones attached to it’s practice. I must also respectfully suggest that viewing women as sexual objects is what we guys do, regardless of one’s sexual proclivity. Make no mistake it’s still a sin in God’s eyes but even the experts these days agree that most gender behaviors are natural in origin? Please correct me if as usual I have taken this thought too far?
    In His Love, Rob


  2. thorin25 says:

    Actually Rob, that is what I’ve said, that it seems all guys objectify women, regardless of whether they crossdress or not.


  3. Paul Samson says:

    Hi Thorin,

    Thanks for your post. I find myself agreeing with you on this. In the past I tried to find a category of sin for crossdressing and failed. it was only when I came to see it as another form of lust that I began to be able to deal with it. I was lusting for the woman that I was creating. That didn’t mean that it always ended in masturbation but looking back it was still lust.

    God bless, Paul


  4. Vivienne says:

    Hi Thorin,

    This is a subject in which I wholly agree with you. Crossdressing photos seem to involve middle-aged men posing like starlets, teenagers, or prostitutes, not like women of a similar age would pose. This is yet one more sign that crossdressers don’t want to be like women, they want to be like men think women are.

    There are plenty of powerful female role models who can be attractive without pouting or sticking out their booty. Why don’t crossdressers pose like them? Why don’t they even try to be like them?



  5. thorin25 says:

    Vivienne, we’ve probably discussed this before, but I forget. In your own crossdressing, do you do this, as I’ve described above? This is bold and blunt of a question, but in your crossdressing is it sexual like this, including masturbation? Or is yours crossdressing without sexual pleasure?


  6. thorin25 says:

    Vivienne, I am sorry if I offended you with such a question. I was not trying to be brash. I just was wondering how you think about your own crossdressing, if you think you are also giving into this objectification. And if that is the case, how do you make yourself okay with continuing the activity? And if not, it would be interesting to see how your crossdressing did not become such an objectification.


  7. Vivienne says:

    No worries Thorin. I have just been too busy to respond.

    The truth is that crossdressing does have a sexual frisson, but this isn’t the only aspect to it by any means. There are powerful sensual aspects (soft fabrics, perfumes) and powerful emotional aspects (relinquishing the alpha role) as well.

    I believe crossdressing (for me, at least) isn’t objectifying women; instead it’s about emulating what I love and adore about women. Why isn’t it objectification? First, because I don’t pursue stereotypes or archetypes of femininity (the maid, the bride, the schoolgirl, the stewardess) but instead try to emulate women who I admire (the scholars, the scientists) for their achievements, rather than their appearance. Second, because I don’t insist that other people subsume their feelings about my crossdressing beneath my “rights” to present as a woman.

    Is this all black and white? No. Could you argue it another way? Sure. Am I too close to be able to judge my own behaviour objectively? Maybe.

    Hope this helps.



  8. thorin25 says:

    Good honest thoughts Vivienne. You know my views already and I’m not going to pick at anything you said. But I appreciate knowing more of what your crossdressing is like for you, if only because that makes it easier when discussing such topics with you. While crossdressing certainly was sexual for me, the other things you mentioned were there for me as well, the non-sexual aspects.

    Even the sexual aspect aside, I thought it better to address the emotional needs I was craving through a means other than women’s clothing. I hope someday that can work for you as well. But anyway, thanks for keeping in touch. I always appreciate your civil thoughtful comments.


  9. Ralph says:

    As much as I detest “broad” (ha ha, see what I did there?) stereotypes of women among men, particularly crossdressers, I have to jump in and protest the tendency to assume *all* men objectify women. Now having said that I will agree there is a marked tendency among crossdressers to favor the sexual aspect of the imaginary women they are trying to emulate, whether the prostitutes with the fishnet tights and leather micro-skirts or the arguably weirder “Lolita” subculture with their focus on naughty schoolgirls.

    Getting back to the main topic, though, a number of my friends regard women on a scale of intelligence and creativity rather than sexual characteristics. Of course these are friends who have been playing tabletop roleplaying games and attending renaissance festivals for the past 40+ years, so maybe there’s a connection…


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