This is the story of a woman and the pain she went through dealing with her partner (husband maybe?) who was a crossdresser addict, who crossdressed for sexual pleasure until finally convincing himself that he was transgender.
The writer claims to be a radical feminist and much of her blog is about such topics. I am not advocating for the content of the blog itself, nor the attitude of the author towards issues of gender and transgender. While some of what she says in other posts about transgender I believe to be true, much of it comes in vulgar language, and is certainly not from a Christian perspective and worldview. I would recommend not reading any of the other posts.
However, I can affirm that much of what she has written in her story, from my experience, is true not only of her partner but also of many crossdressers. I have heard so many stories similar to hers since starting this blog ministry.
Read it here – Gas Mark Six
In her story she shows very clearly the issue of escalation in the lives of crossdressers. When giving in to crossdressing, we can never be content. The addiction escalates and escalates until crossdressing has consumed our lives completely. We aren’t content until we can be fully and completely a real woman (which cannot happen). And in cases like the man in the story, we can’t really get what we want, because we want to be real women while at the same time masturbating and having sexual pleasure as a man. It’s hard to imagine that this man cannot see the foolishness of his actions, and yet this story is just one of thousands.
On the issue of emotional abuse I think she is right. I don’t agree with a lot of what feminists say, but I do believe they are right when they talk about masculine bullying and manipulating coming from transgendered husbands. I have seen this time and again from other stories. Trying to force your wife to live as a lesbian is abuse enough, let alone all the lying, manipulation, and guilt trips.
I’m sad to say that what she says about her counselor is also not unique. For a counselor to lay all the blame on her instead of her husband is unconscionable. That counselor should lose their license. I have lost a lot of faith in secular counselors. I’m hesitant to send those struggling with crossdressers to counselors because so many counselors are absolutely clueless about crossdressing and transgenderism and instead of truly trying to help someone quit crossdressing and accept their male selves, they will encourage them in their delusions. They are going along with the culture which says that whatever people want to do is fine, we should not judge. It’s foolishness. I’d much prefer to send people to Christian counselors or pastors.