Beware Photo Apps and Editors!

One of the temptations I have faced, and I’m sure many of you also deal with, is the desire to use photo editors and phone apps to change photos to make yourself look like a woman. Some apps these days are so advanced that all you need to do it upload a photo and it will show you what you would look like as a female.  Other editors let you change your body in the photo so that you see your face on a female body.  Other editors let you add makeup.  Some programs I’ve used in the past even let you mess around with changing clothes over top of the clothes in the original photo.

Resist the temptation to do these things!  While in some sense I might be convinced to say that such activities are harmless fun for normal people (though it would be very hard for me to say that), I can say with strong clarity that such activities are NOT harmless for us who have issues with our gender and with crossdressing.

In past years, especially in my youth, I gave in to these temptations many a time.  Sometimes it was out of intense desire.  Other times it was a sort of compromise, a way to give into sin without fully giving in to sin.  In other words, such things seemed lame in comparison to actual crossdressing, but I would rationalize that the photo editing was not really sinful in the way crossdressing clearly was.  It seemed like harmless fun without much risk of consequences.  But in reality it was far from harmless, and was only feeding my gender dysphoria and/or giving me sexual pleasure.  What’s worse is that just about every time I gave in to this borderline activity, it led me down the road to crossdressing fiction or crossdressing in real life.

Don’t compromise!  If you give in to such things, you are only a step away from much worse things.  I have realized, the hard way, that the only way to beat this addiction (or any addiction) is to have no compromise.  Not only do you have to resist things that are clearly sinful such as pornography and crossdressing itself, but you have to resist anything that gets even close, anything that is at all related, anything that will trigger you into further temptation.

Seriously, we have to be careful sometimes even reading newspaper articles about transgender issues, if such things will lead us down the rabbit trail of sin.  I’m not being legalistic and saying we should never do those things.  I’m being honest.  We are weak and such borderline things are just foolish for us to do.  I imagine it is similar to how it would be foolish for an alcoholic to drive home past the bar he used to frequent.  It’s not inherently wrong for him to drive past that bar, but if it’s causing him to be tempted to drink and then to give in, then it does becomes foolish and also sinful for this particular alcoholic to keep driving home that way because it is causing him to sin and yet he does not stop driving that way.

Don’t mess with these editors! Don’t download these apps.  Resist the temptation.  Be strong.  If you want to get better, if you want to beat your addiction, if you want to heal, and experience freedom in your life, the only way to experience that freedom is to have no compromise.  Don’t fool yourself that these kinds of activities are harmless.  Be strong, don’t do anything foolish that leads you to other sins.

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7 comments on “Beware Photo Apps and Editors!

  1. CD wife says:

    Wow this is awful Thorin i truly believe the Devil or dark force is moving with technology . Just think years ago it was all top shelf stuff catalogues ect. I know you know all this but none the less we used to say keep the computer in a high traffic area but of course this also no longer applies.
    I’m inclined to say ditch the phones ect and lead a simple life unless your job depends on it and even then you could change career path. It depends what price for peace and serenity ?

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  2. Ranjit kumar mitra says:

    Helo sir … U are doing great job … A big thanks to your effort …. I failed many times for stopping cossdressing thoughts … 1000 times … But i never gave up …. After reading ur post from past 15 days i have not done any cd and mastrubution …… Sir i can quit crossfredsing … But the problem is i get much more sexual pleasure from crossdresding rather than normal sex thought …. And without crossdressing and humiliation i am not getting so hard ….. So my qus is how to be very sexual and achive same sexual excitement and hardness from normal sex with girls….. As we get from crossdredsing.

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  3. ms727231 says:

    My ex went from he likes to wear women’s clothing to now he says he is a woman inside and he wants a sex change operation. I’m being his friend but how do I pray for him? This is a drastic move.

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  4. thorin25 says:

    Thank you Ranjit for the comment. I appreciate the encouragements. Well done on 15 days! That is not a small thing. Go out and celebrate! Treat yourself to a nice restaurant feast.

    I understand how you feel about sex. My advice, just deal with it. So what if you have less sexual pleasure right now. Sex is not all of life. You can go without sexual pleasure for a while. But the good news is that, as you resist crossdressing, your body will relearn to enjoy the sexual pleasure of sex with your wife. It’s a long process. For me, I get intense sexual pleasure with sex with my wife, and I don’t have a single CD thought or desire come into my mind at those times. But I’ve had longer to retrain my body than you have, it’s a long process. A long process of daily saying “no” to sin, and saying “yes” to what is holy. Don’t expect the change to happen overnight. But if you really want to change and heal, that change is possible if you put the work in, and if you are willing to sacrifice the sexual pleasure you get from crossdressing.

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  5. thorin25 says:

    ms, did you read this post? https://healingcd.wordpress.com/2015/11/04/giving-pastoral-care-to-a-crossdresser-or-transgendered-person/

    Your friend is about to make a big mistake. If you don’t see how, the first step is to do some research yourself about transgender issues. I encourage you to go here and read some of my posts and articles I’ve linked to about transgender. Look under the category – Understanding Transgender

    https://healingcd.wordpress.com/most-important-posts/

    What I am saying is counter cultural and many want to stone me for saying it. But the best way to be loving as a friend is to speak the truth and guide your friend away from making a mistake. Instead of rejecting himself, his body, help him to accept himself for who he really is.

    Here is a good post for you and him to read together and discuss, a non threatening post –
    https://healingcd.wordpress.com/2016/08/08/an-alternative-method-integration-and-contentment/

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  6. Ranjit kumar mitra says:

    Sir i dont know who you are ..but u motivated me …. U r living god for many crossdresser who wants to be healed…. I have no guidance on this issue …. Sir i am only 24 and not married . yes sex is not life . but still there is a doubt in my mind that will i ever get same sexual pleasure from my future wife that i am getting right now from mastrubuting while crossdressing . plz sir help me out . guide me . share your email so we can discuss propperly. Its my humble request to you.

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  7. thorin25 says:

    Thank you for the appreciation Ranjit, but I am not God, nor a god. I am nothing. God is only using me to point people like you to him. Your help and healing will be found in our Lord Jesus Christ. Give your life to him for true life and healing.

    I have already written a lot on this site that will help you much, you simply need to take the time to read more of my posts.

    But I will also email you so you can email me back

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