My Perspective

I’m including this short section here, because you need to understand the perspective I am working from.  Everything you see on this blog – every blog post, every comment I make, things I choose or don’t choose to blog about – all of these things are colored by my overall outlook on the meaning of life which I describe below.

I believe that the meaning of life, the reason that we exist as humans, is to –   Worship God and enjoy him forever.

I am from an evangelical faith background, (though I strive for unity among Christian denominations).  Quoting from my tradition, from the Westminster Shorter Catechism –

Q. 1. What is the chief end of man?
A. Man’s chief end is to glorify God, and to enjoy him forever.     (Westminster Catechism)

Life is about having a relationship with the God who created us, about giving him the worship that he deserves and finding extreme pleasure and enjoyment in him.  Without relationship with God, it really doesn’t matter whether you crossdress or not.  Everything in life becomes pretty meaningless.  But if we do know God’s love, and love him, and have a relationship with him, then everything we do in life becomes meaningful.

Unfortunately, we as humans have messed up our relationship with God through our sin and disobedience.  Only through Jesus Christ can that relationship with God be restored.  He lived the life we could not live and gives us the rewards that he earned by that life.  He gives us his righteousness since our own righteousness is not good enough.  And even though Jesus was innocent, he died to take the punishment we deserve for our sin.  He conquered death on the cross and allowed us to be saved from our punishment.

Accept Jesus as your Savior and Lord and you can have a right and good and loving relationship with God.  It’s totally free, and yet totally priceless.  Jesus is the supreme treasure of my life.

I desire to help people resist crossdressing, and try to understand themselves better in light of their crossdressing.  I desire people to be healed from their pain and become whole people once again.  But whoever we are, whether we crossdress or not, true healing, meaning in life, salvation, hope, grace, and eternal life can only be found in Jesus.

This of course is just an extremely brief summary of what I believe, but hopefully it gives you some food for thought.  If you would ever like to talk about the Christian faith or why I believe what I believe, or how you yourself can become a follower of Jesus, please please please talk to me about it.  There is NOTHING I would rather do in this life than to talk to you more about my Lord, and the good news of salvation that we can have in Jesus.

To read my more detailed story about my faith and my struggle with crossdressing go here – About Me – History.
To read more about why I think crossdressing is sinful, you can begin with this post – Summary of why crossdressing is sinful/harmful

10 comments on “My Perspective

  1. Dave says:

    The Kingdom of God is within you

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  2. Jim says:

    Thank you so much for writing this and your many other contributions.
    I thought I had some unique insights into cd addiction and so I started my own blog but I see that you have gotten there before me. For example I see you make the point that I tried to make here (http://transvesticfetishaddiction.blogspot.ie/2012/08/the-causes-of-transvestic-fetishism.html) that God has to come first in our lives:

    “Life is about having a relationship with the God who created us, about giving him the worship that he deserves and finding extreme pleasure and enjoyment in him”

    While understanding the point that our relationship with God is all important I disagree with you here when you say:
    “Without relationship with God, it really doesn’t matter whether you crossdress or not.”
    Because even if the person is a nonbeliever and doesn’t have a supernatural good (grace) it would still be good not to cross dress as this would be a natural good (authentic sexuality)

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  3. thorin25 says:

    Hey Jim, actually I agree with you. Thanks for the comment, it’s a good clarification! Sin is never good, and always destructive, whether we know Jesus or not. But I was exaggerating to make a point. Compared to not having a relationship with God, crossdressing is nothing to worry about. The key word is “compared.” But yes, hopefully even if this blog fails to convince someone of their need for God and his forgiveness, hopefully it still helps them to end crossdressing in their life.

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  4. A Quiet Voice says:

    I am glad that you now can better understand my POV. It seems almost counter intuitive considering that we seem to share the same perspective, based on what you have written here.

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  5. thorin25 says:

    Glad to hear it! It’s interesting how much Christians can agree on, but still differ on other things. It would have been nice if God had made certain things more clear to us. We are left with so many questions to seemingly figure out on our own (though of course I do believe that God guides us through his Holy Spirit). But the reality is, that even with the Holy Spirit’s guidance, Spirit filled Christians still come to different conclusions on so many topics….That’s a tough reality to deal with.

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  6. A Quiet Voice says:

    Perhaps it is the case that we all must find our own individual paths. My thinking is that because Our Lord loves us and desires our happiness, I believe that if we are able to do God’s will, we will live happy and productive lives.

    If cross dressing makes you unhappy or feels wrong to you then gee, maybe you should try something else, like golf(?).

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  7. Sensitive Guy says:

    When I was in school we did not understand about ADHD. When a boy was inattentive and unruly then it was believed that he lacked discipline and he was considered a “bad boy”. It was believed that it was his own fault, and he should try harder.

    I wonder if cross-dressing is like ADHD and has a biological origin. How would your perspective change? We know that a man with Parkinson’s can be given medication which could result in cross-dressing as a side effect. When his medication is changed, then his cross-dressing will disappear. Children with Aspergers show a higher prevalence for cross-dressing. We know that the vast majority of men feel nothing from cross-dressing except humiliation. So, why does a small percentage find the experience so pleasurable? It isn’t normal. It is likely that its origin is rooted in synaptogensis and neural pruning. It could be just another form of synesthesia with its origin in our infancy.

    This is not to say that cross-dressing is acceptable, or that we do not need to struggle against it. I believe we need to strive above our base instincts to achieve our heavenly calling. However we should not condemn ourselves anymore than we should condemn a child with ADHD. It just means that we struggle against natural imperfections, and we are keenly aware of our need for a Savior.

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  8. thorin25 says:

    Sensitive Guy, I have run into several people who claim that medications have helped them stop crossdressing. They’ve suggested various medications and ways that those meds worked. I can’t remember what posts they talked about those on though.

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  9. A Quiet Voice says:

    A Sensitive Guy says:
    “It isn’t normal. It is likely that its origin is rooted in synaptogensis and neural pruning. It could be just another form of synesthesia with its origin in our infancy.

    This is not to say that cross-dressing is acceptable, or that we do not need to struggle against it. I believe we need to strive above our base instincts to achieve our heavenly calling. However we should not condemn ourselves anymore than we should condemn a child with ADHD. It just means that we struggle against natural imperfections, and we are keenly aware of our need for a Savior.”

    I like this perspective. it makes a lot of sense.

    I think that the medication you are referring to are anti-androgens, which reduce the sexual drive. By lowering testosterone levels, the sexual drive/need is reduced. For the cross-dresser this works because since cross-dressing is the mis-learned stimuli, the need to gratify that need is consequently reduced.

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  10. Dramaking55 says:

    My perspective is also based on a biblical worldview and based on that, I would have to say that much of what has been written probably falls in line with my own convictions.
    In the essentials, unity, in the non-essentials, liberty and in all things, charity. This was taken from a favorite of mine called the Moravian response and can be read in it’s entirety here if you wish
    http://www.ligonier.org/learn/articles/essentials-unity-non-essentials-liberty-all-things/
    I bring this up because it has caused me to really think about things in a different light. Crossdressing for me is wrong and for for anyone else in my opinion it is wrong also but is it one of the “Essentials”? I believe that God knit me in my mother’s womb, that He knew the terrible things that would happen to me in childhood and throughout my life up to now. I was saved at 8 years old and re-dedicated my life to Christ at 14 so I am pretty sure that we will see homosexuals, crossdressers, murderers, gamblers etc. etc. in heaven. It just so happens that this is my and I will assume our signature sin. It has been and will continue to be the “thorn in my side” and that which helps me trust that God is all I need. There are parts of me that satan was able to twist into something that was against God and in those things that my Lord and Savior has now un-twisted, I find they were really some of my greatest strengths. I believe that inside every man is a scared junior high boy and so we cope with the slings and arrows thrown at us in different ways. For me I broke the history of abuse in my family by turning all the anger and hatred I grew up with, inside and created a “safe” place to live my life as another persona. Much the way an alcoholic turns to the bottle I turned towards femininity and passivity/submissiveness as my drug of choice.
    So God has now taken all those failings, distrust of men, and a host of other character defects and remade me into the man I was meant to be for him and the kingdom. I get to be a part of this extended family and whenever I can help to disciple men to be strong Christian leaders.

    Blessings
    Andrew

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