Wives of Crossdressers Chat

This page was made upon request, for wives of crossdressers to have a place for discussion. There are other forums for crossdressers’ wives on the net, and I’ve linked to some of those on my links page. This page is intended to be a place where wives can support one another, give advice, pray for one another, and discuss these complicated issues. Since there are other general forums out there, this page will be mainly intended for those wives who view crossdressing as sinful or unhealthy, and for those wives who are Christians.  But all wives of crossdressers should feel very welcome to comment and discuss here.

I cannot add a forum into my site, so you will just have to comment and reply as one long thread. If you are a new user, I usually can approve you within a day or two.  I hold all email addresses with confidentiality, but for those of you who are rightly worried about security and anonymity, it’s easy to make a new email address with anonymous names, which you could do before commenting here.  If you have ideas about editing the description above, or have other ideas for this page, let me know.

I highly suggest you read this post which is for people trying to help those struggling with crossdressing, with a special long section especially directed to you wives – Giving pastoral care to a crossdresser or transgendered person

 

*Please do not post your email in the body of the comment itself. It is important to protect yourself from spam and potential harassment by never publicly posting your personal information (such as your email address) on this or any other blog. Rest assured that I will keep your email address confidential.

507 comments on “Wives of Crossdressers Chat

  1. CD wife says:

    I respect your kind offer of support above. But judging from the few CDs that post here and looking at your links where the men haven’t posted on their recovery for years in some cases. I am concerned that the wives must not be gaslighted into false recoveries. It’s painful and damaging.
    Yes by all means support your husband but he has to show willing and a huge WANT TO first. Then we can think about supporting them. Many will tell us what we want to hear and go along with therapy and then the truth comes out when the wife makes discoveries.
    It has long been recognised that the partners of addicts should concentrate on their own recovery and leave the addicts to help each other. The old saying you can’t bulls***t the bull s*** **rs* stands and that is why you have the fellowships like AA and Alanon SAA/ COSA as separate recovery groups and in treatment centres the same.
    I would also suggest the tried and tested concept of the sex addict / cd working on himself before marriage guidance ect until he can think with a clear head about a healthy physical relationship with his wife. A period of abstinence is usually suggested.
    There is a saying take what you like and leave the rest in the groups and this would apply to what i have said but time will tell.
    I think i have suggested all i can to nosillasite she must make her own choices. But she has children so must take care of herself to be the best mom she can be and the stress of all this puts that at risk.

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  2. CD wife says:

    I respect your kind offer of support above. But judging from the few CDs that post here and looking at your links where the men haven’t posted on their recovery for years in some cases. I am concerned that the wives must not be gaslighted into false recoveries. It’s painful and damaging.
    Yes by all means support your husband but he has to show willing and a huge WANT TO first. Then we can think about supporting them. Many will tell us what we want to hear and go along with therapy and then the truth comes out when the wife makes discoveries.
    It has long been recognised that the partners of addicts should concentrate on their own recovery and leave the addicts to help each other. The old saying you can’t bulls***t the bull s*** **rs* stands and that is why you have the fellowships like AA and Alanon SAA/ COSA as separate recovery groups and in treatment centres the same.
    I would also suggest the tried and tested concept of the sex addict / cd working on himself before marriage guidance ect until he can think with a clear head about a healthy physical relationship with his wife. A period of abstinence is usually suggested.
    There is a saying take what you like and leave the rest in the groups and this would apply to what i have said but time will tell.
    I think i have suggested all i can to nosillasite she must make her own choices. But she has children so must take care of herself to be the best mom she can be and the stress of all this puts that at risk.

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  3. thorin25 says:

    CDwife, yes the recovery has to be led by him. We will wait and see what happens.

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  4. nosillasite says:

    Hi CD Wife and Thorin,

    I am going to pick out something for us to read from Thorin’s links… (he was interested in that) to kind of jumpstart this thing.. then it’s all up to him… GOD has shown me to let go, yet this morning when I prayed, that’s the sense I got.. xo

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  5. CD wife says:

    As you said hi to me i feel it only polite to respond but i have said all i am able to say to you about this in my last post. You will be in my prayers.

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  6. Lisa says:

    Unbelievable! All schools seem to care about is their reputation. Don’t care about the female student’s concerns. Boys wearing skirts. What’s next makeup, accessories, using the girl’s bathrooms. The parents of the female students must be outraged.

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